CONFIDENTIALITY: We will observe confidentiality unless someone appears to be in danger.
Parish of St Charles and St Thomas More Bereavement Care Team
We aim to support families within the parish who have experienced bereavement. We are aware that bereavement is a very personal and family time and we are not here to intrude on anyone’s privacy. But there are times when help is needed after a death; before or after the funeral; even months or years after the death of a loved one.
The Bereavement Care Team is here to help all our parishioners and others who may need support and comfort.
We aim to help families by providing:
Information on how to have a name included is given at the bottom of the List.
Please contact us if:
you or any member of your family are struggling to cope with a bereavement and have need of support;
you would like to learn more about the work of the team with a view to joining;
you wish to have the name of a deceased member of your family entered into the Book of Remembrance.
St Charles & St Thomas More Church 224 Aigburth Road, Liverpool L17 9PG.
Parish Office: 0151 727 2493
Parish of St Charles and St Thomas More
Some useful resources:
LISTENING EAR. An ecumenical organisation based at the St Nicholas Centre, Halewood providing a free and confidential listening and counselling service for over 18’s. They also help 6 – 17yr olds - but there is a waiting list.
Tel: 0151 488 6648. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
CRUSE. To enable anyone bereaved to understand their grief and cope with their loss. Daytime helpline: 0808 808 1677. www.cruse.org.uk. Email: email@example.com
GRIEF NET. An Internet community of persons dealing with grief, death, and major loss. www.griefnet.org
LIVERPOOL BEREAVEMENT SERVICE.
Tel: 0151 236 3932
ALDER CENTRE. For those affected by the death of a child.
Child Death Helpline: 0800 282 986 Local: 0151 252 5391
CHILD BEREAVEMENT UK. Support for bereaved children or those caring or concerned for a bereaved child. Runcorn Centre: Tel: 01928 577164. www.childbereavementuk.org
SANDS. For those who experience stillbirth. Tel: 020 7436 5881 Local: 07594 580092. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
SURVIVORS OF BEREAVEMENT BY SUICIDE (SOBS)
Helpline: 0844 561 6855. www.uk-sobs.org.uk
SUPPORT AFTER MURDER AND MANSLAUGHTER
Helpline: 0845 872 3440 www.samm.org.uk Email: email@example.com
Local: 0151 207 6767(24 hours) www.samm- merseyside.org.uk
PAPYRUS. Prevention of Young Suicide. Helpline: 0800 068 4141. www.papyrus-uk.org Email: firstname.lastname@example.org. SMS 07786 209697
SOME ADVICE FROM CRUSE:
Cruse Bereavement Care is the leading national charity for bereaved people in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. They offer support, advice and information to children, young people and adults when someone dies and work to enhance society’s care of bereaved people.
“We all come into contact with bereaved people during the course of our working lives - be it clients, customers or colleagues - and even the most confident person can find it hard to know what to say. People who have been bereaved may want to talk about the person who has died. One of the most helpful things you can do is simply listen, and give them the time and setting to express their grief as they choose. Offering specific practical help - not vague general offers - can also be very helpful. See overleaf some other suggestions which may help you and them.
Requirements of a Bereavement Team Member:
Responsible to: Parish Priest, Parish Safeguarding Rep, Bereavement Team LeaderRole Purpose: To support families within the parish of St Charles and St Thomas More who have experienced bereavement.
1. To assist the parish priest by visiting bereaved families before a funeral. To ensure that all those involved can be part of the preparation process and know how the funeral will proceed. To be able to answer any questions they may have.
2. During any visit a card of condolence from the parish may be presented to the bereaved.
3. A leaflet about the work of the team will be provided including contact details and the
offer of the Rosary being said for the deceased person prior to the funeral.
4. A minimum of two members per visit.
5. To attend the funeral mass/service. To be available for family members to clarify any
issues they may have.
6. If appropriate and required to visit the family after the funeral at an agreed time.
7. To signpost the family to counselling services.
8. To meet regularly as a team, to review the work undertaken.
9. To assist in planning for memorial services.
10. To pass on any concerns to the parish priest or deacon.
The parish priest or deacon has overall responsibility for the funeral mass/service. The team members are to assist the process through provision of basic advice and information.
a) A commitment to the essential teachings of the Catholic Church & the ethos of the parish.
b) The ability to relate to and respect people of all ages & objectively help those who find themselves in a distressed & possibly a vulnerable position as a result of bereavement.
c) An ability to listen sympathetically understand the feelings of the bereaved family, gained from an experience of bereavement and/or training. To maintain confidentially at all times.
d) A willingness to attend bereavement and safeguarding training to maintain current procedures & changes.
e) To be able to work as part of a team & accommodate any changes that may arise.